....cool mom

….I don’t really remember if I thought my mom was a cool mom or not….as a teen I remember sitting on the arm of the chair telling her all about my day..all the funny things that happened with me & my gal pals…..I remember having friends over & having parties at our house….I never really thought about my mom being a cool mom or not….

 

..there is a turning point when every parent feels less important in their kid’s day to day activities…they get busy with their own activities & interests…they just don’t seem to want us moms around…after all those years of tending to their every whim…its like suddenly – wham..they don’t need you around anymore…at least not in front of their friends…lol…I think its hard for moms to understand their kids as individuals..find a way to stay involved in their lives …being as cool a mom as possible….I think it is one of the most important & pivotal…complicated parts of mommy hood.

 

…I am sure all kids are different…I can only speak from my experiences with both a step son & a daughter..who are completely different in many many ways.  Its funny how being a cool parent means leaving then kids alone…allow they their own space….be a silent partner who hears everything….pays attention…..but always acts clueless…..a cool mom knows her kids act as it they don’t need her…in actuality they are needed the most….kids may look like they are not listening or watching ..but you know they are….they are like sponges.

 

…..cool moms don’t stop disciplining because they are afraid that their kid with hate them for a moment….cool mom remain stringent in the values they have instilled early on…kids need parents not friends…being a parent is the most important job a person will ever have…as our kids grow up it is only natural that they grow away from us..no matter how heartbreaking that is..its it a fact of life….it’s what nature intended…keeping them under our wing only clips their wings…..which is exactly what I don’t want to do to my kids….I am not saying set the kids free without boundaries…I am saying give kids room to move & learn who they are……

 

..if we play are cards right  at this stage of mommy-hood…..we might just forge a friendship that goes well beyond the umbilical cord & repays us with endless love & understanding for the rest of our lives…..to me there is no other alternative.. not an option…….someday I will look back & say what an amazing person I helped to grow into this world…..there is nothing cooler than that! That’s a cool mom!