Monday, February 18, 2013

…love language….


..is it the same in  relationship….do we love others the way we want them to love us?  …seems to be so much miscommunication in our relationships…are we loved the way we need to be loved…or do you love your partner the way he or she needs love?  I just thought love was love…oh yea..there’s friendship love…family love…romantic love…even lust love – bow chicka bow wow……….turns out there are 5 languages of love….. a friend told me about some book & how interesting it was…so I thought – time for me to learn a new love language…….I am not talking about a new position..however…lol

…we all want our relationships to sparkle…we want our hearts to sing….we all want to receive the love we desire…in the way we need to be loved….if you receive the wrong type of love….you may feel empty and unwanted…we have all been there….miscommunication or lack of communication causes conflict….the golden rules of any relationship is to be kind & humble….plus respect…..the hardest & most important one…which…in my relationships has always come back to bite me in the ass time after time…..not to judge our partner based on our own expectations….we are individuals with different personalities…..

…so I was reading about the 5 languages of love by Dr. Gary Chapman…his theory is pretty interesting..there are 4 key way of showing love & every one of us has a preference for what makes us feels most loved…knowing & understanding the love languages will help each of us to communicate with our partner in a non-judgmental  way..

1      Quality time….this is your love language if you like eye contact…deep & meaningful conversations..shared activities….you feel the need to bond.

2     Receiving gifts….this is your love language if you like little love gifts & surprises…a constant showering of items that represent the love  you share.

3     Words of affection…..this is your love language if you like  giving & receiving constant compliment, sweet love notes & lots of encouragement….those who speak this language are sensitive & don’t take criticism well

4     Physical touch…..this is your love language if you like affection….touchy-feely….sex is so much more than sex….it’s a way to connect…if denied….you may feel unloved.

5     Acts of service….this is your love language if you find pleasure in doing things for other people…to be done out of love not obligations. 

…so which one to you speak?  What about your partner?  Don’t assume you know…maybe talk to your partner….if you know your partner’s  love language…and your partner knows yours….think of how awesome your relationship could be….

Maybe check out the book The Five Love Languages   by Dr. Gary Chapman.

 

 

 

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