……raising a teenage daughter is not always a bed of
roses…..loving & liking don’t always go together. I have to say..at
this point..yes I have been angry with my teenager..However I have always…liked
her..Even when she drives me crazy….my mom on the other hand …Oh my my….there
where years I am sure she didn’t like me at all…lol …I cannot imagine how
disheartening it is to realize your teenage daughter’s company & behavior
is unbearable. How..as a mother do you prepare yourself for such intense
feelings?
Are these feelings normal? I am positive that disliking
your teenage daughter from time to time is perfectly normal…I am also very
certain that months drive their teenage daughters crazy….in my case I am
absolutely sure I drive my teenager stark raging mad…..but we adore each other
more than words can say.
…there is no doubt..when I was a teen I talked back both to my
mom & dad….all the time…..just as mothers can bring their teen daughters to
tears ..it goes both ways….there have been a few times over the years when my
daughter & I have brought the other to tears…and I am sure we will
experience it again when evidence of the obnoxious & untenable rears it
ugly head & comes spewing out of either’s moth…..its so hard for both of us
not to allow the same venom come out…lol
…for me….I try to remember..at all times…my teenager is simply
following natures assignment & working towards establishing greater independence
from me….she has to feel secure in who she is…she must find herself..in her own
time & in her own space….even if it doesn’t fit into my agenda……even if its
at the expense of my sanity.
…..I know adolescence is a workout for both the teens & their
parents…..no matter the issue…I try to always come from a place of compassion,
kindness & common sense. It sure can be a rough ride……I try not
to …but at times it is very difficult not to take negative behavior
personally. I completely understand teenage daughters are a whirl
of emotions that seem to burst from time to time…..as hard as it is…..it’s
crucial to our mother/daughter relationship not to react defensively..its not a
power struggle.
…my goal is & always has been to provide my daughter with
the foundation she needs to grown into adulthood….I am always & will always
be here for her….there are no challenges that together ..my daughter &
myself can survive. Being a parent is an awesome responsibility…..I am
truly blessed to have such a wonderful , compassionate, kind daughter……I give
here the space & trust she desires while maintaining a closeness like
no other. I LOVE YOU MMMM ! Way More!
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