Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Joss Stone, No Woman no Cry, Live at Lisbon 01/06/2008


....every color


Jewel - Foolish Games (Official Video)


...note to self


Friday, July 19, 2013

The Flower

The Flower          

by Alfred, Lord Tennyson
 
Once in a golden hour
I cast to earth a seed.
Up there came a flower,
The people said, a weed.
To and fro they went
Thro' my garden bower,
And muttering discontent
Cursed me and my flower.
Then it grew so tall
It wore a crown of light,
But thieves from o'er the wall
Stole the seed by night.
Sow'd it far and wide
By every town and tower,
Till all the people cried,
"Splendid is the flower!"
Read my little fable:
He that runs may read.
Most can raise the flowers now,
For all have got the seed.
And some are pretty enough,
And some are poor indeed;
And now again the people
Call it but a weed.

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

....seduction


Salt-n-Pepa - Whatta Man ft. En Vogue (HQ Video)


...tamed...no way



En Vogue - Giving Him Something He Can Feel (Ultra High Quality)


....drivin on a flat........sex on wheels

....I have always heard that when a chick turns 50 she becomes a horny little vixen...at least that’s what my hubby tells me......he’s  counting on it to kick in anytime......lol......seems that many women over 50 are having good...even great sex.....some say they are having the best sex of their lives.......which is kinda funny.....when I was  in my 20’s  I thought I was having good sex.....then in my  30’s I  knew I was ...or at least I thought I was having great sex.....then I had babies....of course I had a period of a few...ok ok....like maybe 5 years that I would throw my hubby a bone.....haha....I should say let my hubby throw me a bone.....every so often......mostly when he bitched....complained & whined about no sex........at that time in my life I was wrapped up tight in raising kids...dealing with baby weight that just seemed to hang around....the house...the bills...blah blah blah...the last thing I was in the mood to do when I finally fell into bed a spread my legs.....I wanted  sleep!  

 ...my 40’s were more of a self discovery  of sorts...sexual & otherwise......I decided it was time for me to reconnect with my hubby....in other words...get our kink on....lol....now at 50 with my kink in full force...I think sex has changed....or maybe its more that my  attitude...or something had changed...I look & think about sex in a completely different was than when I was younger. 

 
..being that I am knocking at the door of my non-reproductive years......I separate sex from having babies....being dried up removes the risk...life changing possibility of getting knocked up....now sex is sex....or should I say ..sex is SEX.  The realization that sex is separate from love......I have for years invested in a romantic idea which linked sex..marriage & love.....actually.........love..marriage...and sex......lol......but really.....sometimes a gal wants that romantic idea of love & sex...then there are those times when you just wanna throw down & do the nasty.....angry put it to me kinda sex....lol

 
...of course I had to learn to separate sex from sin.....now in my pre-menopausal life I am well beyond the reaches of the conventional “good girl” morality......actually I am way past being conventional...lol......my rule breaking behavior....aka.....F%$# You Fifties is an expression of my more self confident....sexual & non sexual confident outlook on life.....I march to the beat of my own drummer.....for the first time in my life ....my personal choices don’t require anyone’s approval...I am at a stage in my life when my mantra is “what the hell”....I am a risk taker....a rule bender.....I am all about trying new things &   activities.....acts...positions....toys....you get the picture....why not I say!

 

..... my ride on the hormonal roller coaster is slowing down a bit....at least I think so...my hubby may say otherwise.....and if he does....that's exactly why he gets to spend time on the “you're  not getting any” wagon..lol  

 
....as I have sexually  matured...a nice way to say experienced...lol ......I think most chicks would agree....there comes a time when you have to discover or even find  a new repertoire of foreplay &  activities.....you know the deal...wink wink......trying new “things” builds intimacy between my hubby & me...it's funny how when a couple first gets together they both love everything (sex) each one does...as times goes on they discover new things to try......yes the internet has taught us all a trick or two....at some point...ya just get to the place in your sexual relationship that you can just put it out there....open up & tell your other half exactly what like & don’t like...or what ya want...over & over again...lol...when you are younger you just grin & bear it....at 50 ya say “what the hell are ya doing?”......or “I want ......”....I have to say I am a very lucky chick...my hubby is a hot sexy do what every I want no matter how freaky it is kinda guy......I love that about him.......he does have his limits....damnit!  I look forward to tripping the sexual light fantastic....wink wink!...over & over again....:)

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Chow Down (at Chick-fil-A)


Silicone


Varla Jean Merman - Stonewall (Revue Your History)


World Premiere: "WERQIN' GIRL" Music Video by Shangela Laquifa


Manila Luzon -- "Best XXXcessory" official music video


Cover Girl Don't Cover Boy - Drag Queen Documentary


FIERCE.... by shannonlshaw

FIERCE

Cue the music,
Hit the spotlight.
I’m your girl,
lets go.
I’ll take you
for a ride,
Somewhere you’ve
never been.
Come see my show!
Ya I have a cock,
but I’m all woman
on this stage,
I own it,
I’m fierce baby.
Dance with me,
I know you want to.
Let the liquor flow
and the base kick.
Watch the beautiful boys
sweat on the dance floor.
This is my
Heaven.

Documentary - Walk in My Heels


........love a good drag....



...no one can rock a pair of Lee Press-on nails like my beloved long time friend....Hank...(out of respect for his memory..I am not going to use his real name.....I do know he would love such a butch name as Hank...lol)... like little did I know that afternoon almost years ago I met the person who would influence my life & open my eyes up to a world I didn’t know existed......Hank was gay...would occasionally pet a kitty or two...but for the most part ...he was a man’s man.....I could go on & on about the trouble the two of us got into...or the powerful connection we shared.....or how my heart broke the day he passed.....someday.....when/if I am ready I will share my details of our relationship...but for now.....lets talk DRAG!   RIP – I LOVE you Hank!


 

omg.....my first real experience with drag....a rainy Saturday even with nothing to do Hank & I decided to do the gay bar.....if you haven’t been to a guy bar you so so missing out...straight or gay I have had more fun an any other bar....so....in the pouring rain....all smoked up we headed up the road...they ..not sure if it was my idea or Hank’s...we decided to stop at the Goodwill & get Hank  a dress...he was gonna do drag.......let me just tell you there is a big difference between a guy putting on a dress & a drag queen.....lets just say...Hank was no drag queen! 

 


..just in case you have been living under a rock somewhere in Deliverance country.....a drag queen is a contemporary term..... to cross dress in an extreme or flamboyant manner.....the mantra of a drag queen......”I am proud to be who I am no matter who does not like it!”  I say is there any other way to be?  NO! .....a drag queen is a man (not always gay) impersonating a woman for the purpose of entertainment or performance...artistic expression in its highest form!  Don’t confuse drag with transvestism......they are similar  & both involve cross dressing...however most transvestites do not cross dress to be seen...they do so to feel like a woman......drag queens like to put it out there!


 

...ya know men dressing as woman in performance has been around since Shakespearean times.....men would play the roles of the chicks because the chicks were not allowed on stage.....after many many years of struggle & discrimination.

...and with the help of shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race....audiences are flocking to see drag queen preform......they are more beautiful & talented than ever.  Most design..create & made their own outfits...it is truly amazing.....just think about the amount of talent that goes into doing their make up...amazing. 



......my friend Hank....well he needed a little help in the make up department......maybe it was the after 5 shadow...or the old lady house frock...could have been the hairy legs......everyone know he was no drag queen...just a boy in a dress......we were kicked out of the gay club......can you imagine getting kicked out of a gay club.....lol no harm..we went back several times after that...of course.....so where do ya good when you are dressed up & wanna party.......a straight bar of course...not just any straight bar...a straight hick bar in a small town......of yea...I walked in & asked the bartender...I happen to know him...if I could bring in my friend....he looked at me kinda strange & said yes....I then said...no no no....my “friend”.....he’s dressed in drag......then he said – Hell yes....bring him in!  This could have been on he’ll of a mistake....but we were stoned & happy...so we went for it.....




....I have to say that little hick bar had never seen the likes of Hank before....most people knew he was a guy in a dress....but as the evening went on...and the alcohol down...in shots.....Hank’s panty hose came off.....but not those Less Press-On nails......I will never forget hearing Hank say in a drunken slur...”.look how long my fingers look – who knew I had such pretty hand”  lol......it still makes me laugh.   Of course if you mix alcohol & hicks...you are bound to get a bar fight......Hank being the many man he is.....not to mention drunk & stoned....when the fight broke out...he jumped into action..dress..heels...wig and all...grabbed one of the fellas around the neck & took him outside.....well...all women who wear dresses know that if you put your arms up your dress goes up......I guess they don’t teach that to guys.......Hank gets this drunken hick outside...still in a head lock hold the hick looks down ......Hank...who didn’t wear panties under his hose was hanging out below his dress.....the hick looked up at him & said “ you an’t no girl”....hilarious.....true story.  I laughed till I cried.......Hank was just happy he didn’t loose any of his Lee Press-on nails.




....I have been lucky to have had many friendships with guys who dress in drag...some just for fun and others who do it for a living......one thing that I have learned first hand from each & every one is tolerance & acceptance.  I have been honored with the opportunity to create fabulous gowns...over the top hats...plus so much more.....someday I hope to tap into my creativity & do more...for now I am just so thrilled to have been part of  this  over the top..flamboyant...wonderful group of guys. I love ya Cher & Barbara..wink wink 



....I know you wanna know more about drag queens......maybe you are not ready to do the club thing...so check out the movie “Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert”.....or '”To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything Julie Newmar”..


 

....and of course “Wigstock”.....for a twist check out “Connie & Carla”...two chicks dress like men who dress like woman...way too funny.  No matter what your thoughts are...drag queens are dedicated to their craft.....they need to know pop-culture history..be masters of makeup and have the ability to create a variety of characters.



 



Saturday, July 6, 2013

The Hormone Guide

 

Women will understand this! Men should memorize it!

Every woman knows that there are days when all a man has to do is open his mouth and he takes his life in his hands! This is a handy guide that should be carried like a driver’s license in the wallet of every husband, boyfriend, co-worker or significant other!

See more at..... http://www.whengravityattacks.com/?cat=9

Friday, July 5, 2013

MADtv- Bon Qui Qui (complicated order)


...what to blog about

 
.....so I have been blogging for a while now...I love it..I started blogging about gardening & cooking...boy have I evolved.....in case you are wondering...I blog about whatever is going on in my pea brain at the time...no matter how stupid.....off the wall....out there.....naughty..nasty..over the top.....whatever...if I think about...I blog about it.....if I see something....if someone says something to me....anything that makes me think....good... bad...naughty or otherwise...I put it out there...sometimes I may offend.... make ya laugh..or even cry...I have been known to blog trashy sexual thoughts.ideas..opinions..... as well as heartfelt emotions..sentimental feelings..of course I put it out there for all the world to read....doesn't mean you have to like it.........that's  ok......I appreciate EVERYONE who supports my blog by reading it.....I know...sometimes you just shake your head...and wonder if my mother reads this shit..lol ..but that's ok too...it me..all me.....my thoughts...my voice.   ME!
 
 
So incase you are wondering what I have been thinking lately.....or what  kinda crap am I working on now......here are just a few.....I like to work on several at the same time....keeps my juices flowing....especially the sexual ones....lol
 
 
...working blogs....
 
 
  1. ...love a good drag...
  2. ....too bad ya can't smoke the weeds
  3. ...clean eating
  4. ....hit the road
  5. ....juicing
  6. ....junk in the back
  7. ....on pins & needles
  8. ....sex on wheels

...and whatever else crosses my mind.....keep reading.......share your opinions..good or bad.....is there something you are thinking about.... put it out there! 



 

Mary J Blige I Can Do Bad All By Myself Unreleased Track


....just get lost


...body image.....


Sugarland - "Settlin´" ((w/Lyrics))


..don't ever settle


......learn


Fantasia - Free Yourself


…bucket list…better yet…a


 

F%$#-it list….

 

…when I tell people that I have a 50 things to accomplish my 50th year list the one thing they all say…”you mean a bucket list?”  ..well kinda..sorrta..but not really….let’s just say I have no plan to kick the bucket at the end of my 50th year….. in my mind a bucket list is a list of dreams & desires of all the goals I plan to accomplish before I die….we spend…or at least I have spent my entire life worried..thinking..preoccupied ..blah blah blah by what others thought of me……yea yea…no need to physco analize me…I think it comes from insecurities….lack of confidence…..self-worth..bullshit……

 



…so here I am at a crossroads in my life…50…..50..50…..its time I do & say what I want…what I feel…what I want..what I need….what I will accept…what I won’t accept….the rest of the bullshit can go on my F%$#-it list.  Ye – I said my F%$#-it list………it’s the list of things I no longer have the time nor the energy to put up with in my life.  …the F%$#-it list is best created after a few drinks when you can just rattle off the top of your head…it’s the best time to make the F%$#-it list…if you really think about when are you’re the most open …when you are toasted!  Your F%$#-it list doesn’t have to be perfect….kiss your type-A self-goodbye……

 
…don’t overthink it…what in your life doesn’t serve you..if it doesn’t make you happy – F$#@-it!



….don’t “should” yourself to death…not to be confused with shit yourself…ladies that will happen soon enough….if it hasn’t already…lol  “should” is a sister to “guilt”….time to cut it loose…stop the I should be taking time for myself…I should be doing things for everyone else…get over it…F$#@-it!


 

…don’t talk yourself out of your dreams …don’t share your dreams with those who don’t support you…stop with all the lame ass excused….don’t get caught up in the what its..just decide you are gonna do it and say – F%$#-it!  

Mariah Carey - Up Out My Face ft. Nicki Minaj


..lies..lies…lies


 
 ….so who was it that invented thongs?   When exactly did the thing craze start?  I have heard over & over again from chicks that thongs are comfy when you get used to them……even flabby asses look good in a thing…tummys..not so much…..I will admit I will wear a thong…..and yes after you wear it awhile you do get used to it…but as far as it ever really being comfy….well maybe after a few shots of tequila….who was it that said a little bit between your cheeks & gums…not really sure they meant a thong…but hey…women talk…after a few….ok more than a few shots…..almost anything between your cheeks is comfy…lol

 

 …do we as woman  lie about the comfort level of our undergarments to minimize the pain we put our bodies through????....I think HELL YES!  

 

…crawl into a pair of spanks and your voice goes up an octave….but yet we women say they are comfy….really sistra??? 


 

….stilettos…one of my favs….nah…they don’t hurt my feet – NOT!  They can be arch killers……talk about a pain in the arch…haha…..the only time stilettos don’t hurt a chicks feet is when she is on her back & her legs are in the air…….they still make our calves look awesome…….it just hurts to walk to the bathroom afterwards…lol

 

…hair removal…..pain never stops us chicks….ripping the hair off our who whos to our eyebrows and yes even our upper lips…damn that hurts like a mother f$#@er...but we chicks do it….we call it personal maintenance…..

 

…it’s too funny the pain we put ourselves through for beauty….will we ever stop – HELL NO!

Simply Beautiful


..who are you


Kelly Rowland - Kisses Down Low


....beauty

 

....so let's talk sexy



…what does it mean to dress sexy…..wearing short…tight skirts or sporting a lacy bra under a sheer blouse…or exposing your cleavage for all to see? ...I will admit I have worn  or wear  all of those from looks  time to time…..depending on how I feel at the time…dressing sexy for me is about acknowledging myself as a sexual woman..its about letting the world know that being 50 isn’t an ending….but a beginning ….juicy..tantalizing….energizing time of life…….

 


..sexy is a state of mind….you can be sexy no matter your age…I think the secret is tapping into our own sexuality...our feelings…attitude …you can rock a sex attitude wearing jeans & a tshirt just as much as wearing stockings and 3 inch  F*#@  me heels….

 



…dressing sexy is really all a mind game we play with ourselves…..when I dress to catch the eye…wink wink..nod..nod..lol…I think about how I want men to react…..yes – of course my hubby….come one ladies..lets be honest here…..we want all…ok most men to turn & look..check us out when we walk by…..so just admit it…..I think about what message do I want to put out there…am I interested in a playfull tease..or flat out seduction..lol…do I want the fellas yearning to touch from across the room ..or do I want to ignite an immediate fire…..so much to think about when dressing sexy….choosing  the right clothes & attitude I want to project.

 

 

…if you are gonna wear “it”  and put “it” out there  (it = SEX…oh yes it does..lol) …wear it with confidence!  Own it chick!  …a confident woman doesn’t  need to dress like a hooker……sometimes it fun to trash it up a bit….sexy is about an attitude…how you carry yourself…the look on your face….the ease & desire that radiates from your body…. We all have our own style of dressing sexy….don’t ever let yourself be persuaded to dress in a way that makes your feel unnatural…awkward or overexposed…….it’s cool to step out of your box every now & then but I try to be aware  of my limits…the few limits I have……I “try” to wear outfits that suit my style..my body & my perception of myself….

 


….a few month ago..not knowing where the hell my head was…went out sporting this red monstrosity of an outfit…..it was sexy..but NOT on me…..I knew walking out of the house this was not my style nor did I feel the sexy attitude that goes with a red corset…red thigh high fishnets…..you get the picture – NOT GOOD!  ..I do have to admit the corset did shift the sand in my hourglass shape to give the illusion of a cur-vicious well stacked body….lol…what the hell was I thinking?  …I guess I wasn’t….lol   …sad…sad…sad…

 

 
..whatever you decide to wear….red 4 inch F*#@ pumps….or white cotton granny panties…..you are as sexy as you feel…put yourself in the mood…give your body some attention…..love it…show it off…flaunt it…for yourself..for your man…or men…wink wink..nod nod….the thrill you get from dressing sexy by your terms….You Go Girl! You get your sexy on!

.....Friends


“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” ~William Shakespeare


 

 …Lucy & Ethel…….Mary & Rhoda…Laverne & Shirley…..

 

..real or not the friendship between these chicks has always had a uniquely powerful impact on me…to have such a bond…an everlasting friendship…these female friends share a commitment throughout their lifetime…they share experiences & love each other no matter what stupid….idiotic…exciting…wonderful..drunken thing they may do….

 


..I have been blessed to have a wonderful..long term friendship…..my gal pal & I have weathered the storm of peer pressure…boyfriends….parents….marriage..kids..grandkids…and now menopause.  We are our true selves when we chat with one and other…whether we are good..bad…rich..poor…sick or well….we are just a phone call away….we can talk without missing a beat..we pick up where we last left off.  We cheer each other on…we bitch slap each other when needed…she grounds m in who I am….where I came from….she is ALWAYS with me in spirit…she is part of who I am.  

 

…life has a way of getting in the way of friendship…at least for me….I get so busy doing my thing…I forget to call or text..or even stick something in the mail…..alot…but in no way shape or form does that mean you are not on my mind & in my heart.  …you know who you are….. thank you for YOU!

Monday, July 1, 2013

The Friends I have never met...


..,..living "Your Truth"


~Living my truth means knowing my vision and allowing that to be my life; actively letting go of what other’s want from you and listening to my  ‘inner voice’…knowing what I am & am  not responsible for; not doing anything that doesn’t fit your vision for yourself.


 

…my truth

 

…..am I living my truth……I honestly don’t know if I am…..I need to define what my true is exactly….the truth about me…my life….my potential & capabilities & desires…my wants & needs….there comes a point in our lives when we need…ok maybe feel the need to stand at every crossroads of every aspects our life & decide what is our truth about each one…being brave enough to explore the truth..good..bad or otherwise takes courage..ya have open to the possibility that you may have to disprove everything that you ever believed to be true about ourselves, our lives & others.

 

…what we know about ourselves & our world is a combo of our own experiences….what is it they say…..we are the sum of the whole…I am not sure if that applies here..sounds good..lol  We do know ourselves through our own knowledge and what others have taught us….just when we get to that point when we need to realize our own truth & decide to explore our truth changed & we have to create a new level of truth.

 

….without knowing our truth ..how can we match our energy to any intention that is higher than what we believe our truth to be…kinda like if you wanna  hold the truth that you are powerful & successful then you have to hold the energetic vibration that corresponds with that level truth…kinda like…ya need to walk your talk……if not….you can hold the intention..but sadly it will never be your truth.

 


..setting parameters of your truth can mean releasing connections to everyone that doesn’t match……believing we are deserving of love, respect..compassion means dumping all connections to people…events..situations that we are not loved or treated in a manner that matched our truth…it take much courage to let go of the familiar….comfy….easy  in our lives…..letting go is hard…..even if you know you are creating space for new situations  & new connections that enhance and feed your truth….its still hard….I have always heard when there is pain there is growth….

 

…it’s easy to follow along with the status quo….but changing our truth….adopting a new truth or asserting our truth gives us the power & confidence to create the life we want..a life that reflects the truth we want to know..share & live through…….I am doing just that….I find myself standing at many crossroads…working to discover MY TRUTH…..and doing my best to surround myself with only those who support & enhance MY TRUTH…..I have  seen a glimpse of MY TRUTH……..I am a work in progress…

 

Do you live your truth?